Should I marry a Man who has never bought me a gift in our Relationship
Hello my name ….. I read your Past blog post titled Breaking Up without Breaking Down and I must confess, that the write up was very helpful as it made me to critically access my relationships and take bold but necessary decisions that will help me in my area of relationships, the problem is that I have dated this guy for the past three years, everybody knows us together and I must confess that he is a very nice guy, he calls me very regularly, takes me out to various costly restaurants and I know he cares for me so much. The Problem is that he has never one day bought me a gift throughout the three years that we have dated. He proposed to me six months into our relationship, i.e when we were in four hundred level in the university but I refused and told him that we should wait till we have successful graduated from school before we begin preparations for marriage , but the real reason I refused was because I felt his inability to buy me gifts was because he was still a student and that may be if we graduate and get a job , he will be buoyant enough to express his love not just with words but through giving. You must understand , that I am a very simple girl with simple tastes and I am in no way materialistic. But in as much as buying and spending is not the only indicator of true love, I think it is still a vital means of measuring love that most not be ignored in a relationship. After school( Uni- Jos) we continued the relationship , but now we have both graduated from school and are both doing well in our various careers and he has continued to ask me to get married to him . But even as we speak he has not bought me a single gift in his life, the highest he will do is to take me to a restaurant and buy me snacks and coke
I love him, but I am scared that if I get married to him , he will be a greedy husband, I need help from you and your blog readers , should I marry a guy that Has not bought me a single gift ?
This message was sent in from a reader who needs advice to help her take decision concerning a relationship that she is inside ,your advice and counsel is highly welcomed as it will help not just her but other numerous other readers who may be having the same problem right now
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